- You will never be younger than you are now.
You probably think that you have an enormous amount of time to squeeze into your life everything you’ve ever dreamed of. But you’ll never have as much time, as you have now.
If you want to make a significant change in your life or work toward your goals, the sooner you start, the better.
There won’t be a more convenient time for making stupid mistakes or starting all over again. You’ll never be younger than you are at this very moment.
- You can’t have it all.
Every person has a limited amount of time and resources.
Whenever you do one thing, you don’t have time for other things. Whenever you make space for a particular person in your life, you have less time and energy to care for other relationships. It’s called the opportunity cost.
Life is a game of choices.
You can do anything, but not everything.
Choose your priorities and focus on them to make the most of your time and skills.
- Everyone faces fear, even the bravest people you know.
Think of people you admire for their brave decisions. You know what? They probably were afraid to take the plunge: to go for a trip around the world, to change their career entirely, etc.
Everyone feels fear, but every person has their way of dealing with it.
Actually, fear is a good indicator of where we should head. Fear is at the surface of our deepest emotions. We fear for the people and things we care about the most.
If you feel both fear and excitement about something, this is what your goals should be.
- If you don’t take control over how you spend your time, someone else will.
Do you spend your days the way you want, or do you feel like a marionette in a puppet show? Who pulls the strings?
Taking control of your time is tough because it requires taking full responsibility for your actions.
You can’t control other people, as well as many random things that happen to you. But you can manage your choices, the compromises you make, the boundaries you set.
Life doesn’t always go as planned, but you can at least have a plan. And a plan B.
- Life isn’t safe or predictable.
Safety and predictability are what make people choose the known path instead of the new one. But they’re fantasies.
Even if you work at a certain company for 20 years, you can still lose your job. If you live with someone for a few decades, they may surprise you, because people change.
Your life can change in a moment, which is both scary and hopeful.
- Money shows who you really are.
Having money makes your life more comfortable and less stressful for you and your loved ones. There’s nothing immoral about earning and having as much money as you want.
Money doesn’t spoil you if you earn it yourself. On the contrary, it shows your real personality. When you have money, you finally can do things you’ve always wanted, whether they’re ethical—or not.
It’s not a coincidence that people who win lotteries, usually end up losing money, along with losing their family and friends.
- If you want to be rich, accept uncertainty.
People who take on big risks make money. They are paid for accepting the uncertainty because most people wouldn’t.
This is why you can find the most millionaires among business owners. Entrepreneurs are people who are willing to accept the uncertainty and trade it for potential higher income.
You’ll never be wealthy if you want to be comfortable.
- The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.
It sounds like a cliché, repeated everywhere and by everybody.
Yet, many people still believe that when they’re in a relationship, or they finally have family, or they have more friends, they will be happier.
It works the other way around. When you care for your happiness (and yes, you can work on that!), you’ll attract good people with their positive energy.
When you feel lost in your life, don’t wait until someone comes up and makes everything fall into place. You need to solve your problems—individually or with someone’s help.
It all starts with you.
Having said that …
- Relationships make us happier.
People are social creatures. We all are meant to connect with other people.
But it’s not the quantity, but the quality that matters.
Profound relationships make us happier and less stressed, no matter if we talk about our family or friends. We all need deep conversations; we all need to be heard and understood.
- Trust pays off.
Being trustful is not the same as being naive. Trust creates a space to build the foundation of a solid relationship (of any kind). If you trust, you may be betrayed or frustrated, but you may also win big. It’s worth taking that risk.
On the other hand, if you automatically assume that people are malicious and unreliable by nature, you’re shutting the door on creating an honest connection with anyone. If you’re distrustful, you risk having a shallow life that’s full of regret and devoid of profoundly emotional moments. Without trust in people, you’ve already lost.
- Most people mind their own business.
Most people have only their interest in mind. There’s nothing wrong with this!
Everyone has their own problems, challenges and dreams. And they’re focused on them, in the first place.
Once you acknowledge this, you’ll realize two things. First, you need to take care of yourself, because other people can’t read your mind and are too occupied with their everyday struggles to see what you need. So, if you want something from them, ask them!
Second, your failures won’t be remembered for long. If you fail at anything, some people may gossip, but after a while, they’ll be back to minding their own business. So, don’t be afraid to make bold decisions.
- Your deeds matter, your words – not so much.
We all know those people who say they’ll call or help us, but they won’t.
We also know people who say they will chase their dreams eventually, but not yet because (fill in the blanks).
Talk is cheap. Your life won’t change just because you say it will. You won’t become an entrepreneur by talking about it, but by taking specific steps: creating a business plan, getting a website, hiring necessary contractors, etc.
It’s what you do that is a real game-changer.
- It’s never too late to take action – until it is.
If you have big goals, the best time to take action was probably a few years ago. The second best time is now, no matter if you’re 25 or 55 years old.
For most of the time in your life, you’ll be healthy enough to do whatever you planned to do with your life. You’ll still have time to write a book or establish your own business. But you can’t postpone your dreams forever.
There will be a moment when it will be too late for that. For most of us, it will come when we’re really old. For the unlucky minority of us, it will come sooner than that. But it will happen eventually.
Don’t be surprised when you realize that.
- The more important you are, the tougher problems you face.
Many people would like to climb the social or corporate ladder or become someone extraordinary—but not many are aware of what comes with it.
When you have more power and influence, you face more responsibility and more serious problems than an average worker with fewer duties. Entrepreneurs know it best—the bigger their company becomes, the more significant challenges they face.
Having a considerable influence on other people is a great feeling. It’s usually tied to attracting more powerful friends and earning more money. Nevertheless, other things are more prominent as well: the rank of your enemies, the risks you take, and the pressure of being in the spotlight.
- Your success measures the strength of your relationships.
There’s this saying: “The friend in need is a friend indeed.” It’s true.
But there’s no better test of a friendship or romantic relationship than success.
The way others treat your ambitious goals and achievements tells a lot about them. Only people with big hearts and big personalities aren’t afraid to stand in the shadow. They know their worth and don’t need to play you down in order to feel better.
The higher ladder you climb, the fewer friends will stand beside you. But they will be the right ones.
- Some things and people are not worth fighting for.
Don’t try to be a fighter at all times. Sometimes the wisest thing is to let go.
When you let go of work/projects that make you unfulfilled and overstressed, you create a space and time for building your dream career.
When you let go of people who make you feel bad, you make place for people who appreciate and empower you.
- You’ll lose everything and everybody eventually.
Well, this is a tough one. It makes me cringe every time I think about it.
We all have so much time in this world. And this is the time to make an impact that will last longer than you. Even if you’re wealthy and successful, you won’t need the titles and money forever.
You’ll lose everyone you love. Maybe because your feelings towards each other will change, perhaps you’ll change. Or possibly because your days will be over—or they will pass away.
- The rules of living don’t exist.
There isn’t any perfect way to live your life. There isn’t a clear definition of success.
As long as you don’t hurt or exploit anybody, you may live as you please.
You decide what the rules are, even if you don’t realize that.